12/14/17 More Absurdity From the YentaBeast

Even thought she's soon-to-be-an-ex sister-in-law, who knows who much longer she's going to torment everyone. My brother is now in therapy, and this week's discussion with his therapist is along the lines of, "I worked 15 hour days so she could stay home, how horrible of a husband was I? And why does my kid hate me?"  

Additionally, the YentaBeast is such a cruel asshole, she informed my brother (who converted to Judaism for her, so they could marry in the temple) that he's to give their kid "Xmas gifts." Which I don't understand the rationalization for that at all--he converted. He's a Jew. His kid is a Jew. He gives his kid Hanukkah gifts. End of story! And I guess therein shows she never looked at herself as part of our family, or us as part of hers. We all have been strangers and outsiders to her. Good riddance to bad rubbish.

So two nights ago, he brought his daughter flowers for Hanukkah (as YB dictated that he not bring any gifts for the first night, as his daughter would be visiting him this weekend, and whatever gifts, XMAS GIFTS, should be given then. And his daughter's response was one of utter disgust that he'd give her FLOWERS for a Hanukkah gift.

And there was something worrisome in the last couple days, my brother asking my sister if he should get something for the YentaBeast for Hanukkah. And sis replied something to the effect of:

1. No.
2. If he's planning or even thinking about getting back with her, my sister is done with HIM.

And about #2, I find that to be more bluster than reality, because the reality IS that she will just keep helping, because that's the outward manifestation of the damage done to her, to be programmed to be "the care giver," as well as being the one to suffer the brunt of the chaos of everyone else's lives (whereas I just shut down and insulate myself from everyone and their chaos).

How absurd is that? How sick and co-dependent is my brother? This isn't some deeper sense of chivalry or trying to be the bigger person. I think there is something deeply wrong with him. And whatever it is that's wrong with him is what's also wrong with Audrey. I lack the professional expertise to know whether this is nature or nurture. Is this something that was innately programmed into both my brother and Audrey, or is WHATEVER this is the result of faulty programming (aka EMOTIONAL DAMAGE) Audrey did to our brother (and us, too), as well as the faulty programming/emotional damage my grandfather did to Audrey.  

In the meanwhile, my sister is having panic attacks (and the scheduler for her therapist's office is being a real ass-pain), and she's having these vivid "sentient type" dreams, and she's convinced he's going to either kill himself or die. And she's got this messiah complex and compulsion going on. She can intellectualize the fact she needs to back off, but there's that primal instinctual programming going on, too--much in the way Canadian geese fly south for the winter, so, too, my sister continues to HELP, even to her own detriment. 

Here endeth today's absurdity.

12/5/17

(Screengrab from the Sheriff's website, 12/5/17.)

The value of the house is approx $250K-$275K--Look at how much they owe.

I still have the overriding desire to let the executive directors of her temple know that the person in charge of their "ways and means" committee is incapable of handling basic household economics.

Today is their wedding anniversary (16 years).

Today is their daughter's birthday (12 years).

Today is the official date she leaves him.

I never went into it, as I didn't think it was still relevant; however, when my brother was a kid, he had a lot of problems. Perhaps dyslexic to a degree. Definitely had learning issues. Was left back a year. Somehow I thought he outgrew it. But it's really obvious to my sister and I, he hasn't matured or evolved past the age of roughly 15, and I suspect there's something else I cannot put my finger on exactly--perhaps a touch of oppositional defiance disorder? 

He was incapable of handling ANY of the details that needed to be handled in such a short period of time: sending the necessary paperwork to the Sheriff's office, establishing a new bank account, come up with a place to live, and try to shuffle as much of his stuff to mom's house, and the houses of trusted friends. I strongly suggested he establish a post box, and made that suggestion 3-4 weeks ago, and rather than do that, he had his address on record as our sister's house. Is he too cheap or too obstinate to do such a simple thing? I don't know.

Sister has deluded herself into thinking that now that he's "settled" into mom's house, she'll be able to coast. He's incapable of "playing nice" with others, and where mom's house is (I really should get out of that habit--as soon, it won't be "hers" any longer) has a HoA, and HoAs tend to have lots of Nosey Parkers, trying to control what goes on outside everyone's home. I don't see this ending well at all.  And I worry that my sister got her boss/owner of the company where she works involved in this mess. 

On an upnote, allegedly, he's still going and talking to a psychologist.