Pretty "On Brand" For Mom: Discussion With My Uncle

I had a nice conversation with the older of mom's two brothers. This uncle is my god father--though to be honest, I hadn't had all that much to do with him prior to his move to Florida back in the 1980s; and only in the last couple of years had we started texting on our phone.

He told me a story of the day mom introduced him to my dad. At the time, my uncle had lost a lot of weight. He took a shower and put on some loose pants without a belt and headed to the kitchen to get something to eat. Mom and dad were in the kitchen and when my uncle walked in, mom introduced him to dad. As she said, "And this is my brother--" she yanked my uncle's pants down (and yes, my uncle was COMMANDO under his pants).

I couldn't even laugh. I blurted out, "My god, you HAD to have been mortified!" and my next words were,"Pretty predictable for mom!" 

The remainder of my conversation with my uncle was very nice, and he talked about how much he really enjoyed my dad--and I like to think my dad enjoyed this uncle, as they had so much in common.

The fact that mom "pantsed" my uncle does make me wonder what on earth would make her think that was acceptable, or what OTHER equally mortifying things she did or were done to her while she lived with her parents. 

WHO DOES THAT?

Paperwork Part Deux

Not much to report other than:

1. Health Department contacted me via phone and stated that Shady Pines is NOW in compliance--and I guess I don't have any other recourse through the Health Department.

2. Joint Commission contacted me via email and stated that Shady Pines didn't get their accreditation through them--so there's no recourse through them.

3. I am still waiting to hear back from CAR-F.

My sister is now to the point where she doesn't want to talk about mom, and while I do understand it, this also means unless she (and our brother) choose to participate, the idea of me seeking any kind of damages from Shady Pines for an untimely death etc, will be an uphill battle, and I don't have it in me to go through this if I have to fight with them regarding it.

I have set a Google alert for the name of Shady Pines + class action law suit hoping that at some point, at least two of the 30 impacted families (at last count) will take the initiative to initiate a class action law suit--unlikely as it may be.

Lodging complaints won't bring mom back. A class action lawsuit won't bring her back either; however, a class action law suit would be a very very dilute bit of justice: justice from Shady Pines for their negligence; and justice regarding getting some kind of restitution for my parents' thievery. It's more than a bit ghoulish to think of restitution, and perhaps what also keeps me from acting on the impulse to try to sue is appearing as if I were trying to exploit mom's death for my financial gain.