Yesterday was the second care meeting for mom. She's delusional. She thinks she can just check herself out of the nursing home and go home. She's out of her mind. How will she get home? She can't fit in any of our cars. How will she deal with day to day life? She can't afford a live in nurse. She's convinced if she stays at Shady Pines, she'll "wither and die."
She's still accusing my sister of holding her against her will at the nursing home (incorrect). She's now blaming my sister for the fact mom is at the home at all. Of course, it'd be easier to deflect blame onto my sister (or anyone else for that matter) than to realize the only person to blame is my mother, herself, for the current state of things.
It's taken my sister ten years longer than myself to establish and maintain boundaries. She's only seeing mom once a week (and to be honest, I think 1x a week is too much, especially for someone so thankless and abusive).
Looks like she's either sweet talked (or coerced with some promise of financial gain) one of our cousins (who, in addition to being a certifiable flake, also has THREE daughters who are on the autism spectrum--all of whom are now in their 20s, and I don't know if they live with her or what), to commit to doing two days of home care or companionship a week (pretty big commitment, since the cousin lives over an hour away from mom).
If the cousin doesn't flake out and does manage to be dependable, that would mean HER mom (mom's first cousin) would then be privy to all kinds of insider information about mom, mom's finances, home, plus the never-ending-stream of criticisms mom has about EVERYONE.
Perhaps this cousin, much like mom's friend "B," are the last people to suffer mom's wrath.
I said to my sister about the idea of our cousin doing home care for mom, "Let her. Mom will wear out her welcome quick enough. Let mom check herself out of Shady Pines. And let her next fall be a fatal one on a day when our cousin isn't there. Why should we give a shit, when she doesn't?"
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